Home Craft Episode #173: The 12 Week Yr

Episode #173: The 12 Week Yr


This week, we’re doing a deep dive into a subject that we’ve referenced many occasions on this present—the e book The 12 Week Yr. So in case you are within the temper to speak about purpose setting, then this episode is for you!

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Present Notes

Why a 12-week purpose is healthier:

-Lengthy deadlines can really feel very daunting and result in procrastination.

-You possibly can break up your objectives into seasons so that you do extra work on them when you will have extra time and fewer when you find yourself busier.

The essential elements of the 12-week yr:

-Making your imaginative and prescient (be certain it’s clear and measurable).

-Develop your plan (break up your purpose right into a sequence of small objectives).

-Accountability and maintaining rating

-Checking in

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Episode 173 Transcript:

Emma: You’re listening to The Lovely Mess Podcast, your cozy consolation pay attention. This week we’re doing one other deep dive into a subject that we’ve referenced many occasions on this present. It’s the e book, the 12 Week Yr. So if you happen to’re within the temper to speak about purpose setting, this episode is for you. And we’re additionally gonna discuss a bit bit in regards to the Excessive 5 check, which we’re gonna discuss our outcomes, Elsie’s outcomes, my outcomes, and how one can take the check if you happen to’re . 

Elsie: I’ll clarify the general idea of the 12 Week Yr. So the 12 week yr is a purpose setting technique that goes by quarter. So 12 weeks is one quarter, proper? 

Emma: Yeah, it’s three months. 

Elsie: Yeah. So 12 weeks is each three months. The factor I really like about that is while you set your objectives only for the brand new yr, the start of every yr. To begin with, it may be like a procrastination factor the place you don’t have an excellent stable January, that sort of occurs to me yearly. You’re like, I didn’t actually obtain my purpose in January, so I suppose I’m simply not going to have an ideal yr this yr.

Emma: So I suppose I’ll simply wait, hand over for subsequent January.

Elsie: Proper. So while you do it each three months, you simply have 4 occasions the contemporary begins, 4 occasions extra contemporary begins than you do every year, which I really like. And the opposite factor is that the majority objectives that you just wish to obtain in a yr, you truly might obtain or make main headway in simply three months. You don’t actually need a yr for many objectives, and even if you happen to do want a yr, you possibly can no less than do one a part of your purpose then do the subsequent half. Part them off in your subsequent quarter? I believe that the twelfth week yr was actually, actually useful for me, it’s only a mindset shift. And I really like New Yr’s objectives personally. I’m not a type of individuals who’s like, I’m not a decision individual. I’m positively a decision individual. I’ll at all times take an opportunity to set a purpose. . However I believe that that is simply extra sensible and it really works higher. And the opposite factor that they do quite a bit within the 12 week yr is behavior monitoring. So there’s a whole lot of journaling and a whole lot of like monitoring of your progress. And that’s one thing that works actually good for my character as a result of I sort of a bit little bit of a perfectionist factor the place if I don’t do one thing daily, then I really feel like that I’ve already failed. And with the ability to see that doing one thing three to 5 occasions every week is in some methods higher as a result of it’s like attainable as an alternative of not possible, and it’s simply nearly as good as doing one thing daily. I believe that having requirements you could by no means obtain might be one of many largest enemies of success that many people have. Yeah, I discovered the e book. In the event you haven’t learn it, I’d positively suggest it, however you possibly can in all probability additionally simply take heed to this episode and take like the principle excessive factors from it as a result of it’s fairly easy.

Emma: Yeah, it’s fairly easy. And it’s not an extended e book too. So the 12 week yr has like a web site the place it’s also possible to join a publication and I’ve signed up for it years and years in the past. It’s sort of a type of newsletters the place they’ll ship like ideas and tips right here and there or sort of like check-ins, issues like that. So anyway, I prefer it. If I don’t have time, I don’t learn ’em. But when I’ve time and I do learn them, I often discover them like useful. So anyway, when you’ve got any curiosity in that, simply so you already know that’s out there, it’s free. Okay. So I used to be simply gonna go forward and go over a number of issues which can be sort of just like the case for a brief deadline , as a result of that’s just about it. Is the 12 week years like, Hey, let’s have shorter deadlines as an alternative of this yr lengthy deadline. Sure, and I believe so many of those you sort of already hit on together with your synopsis of the 12 week yr, and I believe that’s sort of fascinating. So I’ll undergo these sort of shortly, however be at liberty to elaborate if you wish to, however yeah. Okay, so lengthy deadlines can actually simply result in a whole lot of procrastination. If you already know you will have an entire yr to do one thing and perhaps you don’t actually need a yr to do it, then you definitely’ll find yourself procrastinating. So you find yourself being like, oh, I’ll get to it, after which come October you’re like, oh crap, I higher actually work on this purpose as a result of I’m all through the yr and you could possibly have simply accomplished it shortly after which moved on to your subsequent factor. Additionally, I believe lengthy deadlines can generally imply that our priorities or our life actually adjustments, and I don’t find out about you, however that’s the place I get actually hung up, is that if I’ve made a purpose after which my life actually does change and it makes extra sense for me to alter that purpose. Generally I get it in my head that I’m giving up or I failed, or I’m making an excuse to not end my purpose when the reality is that this purpose simply doesn’t serve me anymore as a result of I made it six months in the past and my life was completely different six months in the past. 

Elsie: I’ve this downside actually unhealthy, with the ability to settle for placing a pause button on objectives has been very precious for me. Earlier than that, I actually had the mindset that if I wasn’t doing every little thing proper now, like if somebody says, how’s your pottery going? Proper now, I haven’t made pottery for greater than a month, I’d really feel like panicked in like a failure. However now, that I’ve my pause button in place and I do know that like we’re displaying our home completely continually and that’s why I can’t get my pottery stuff out as a lot as I needed to, I used to be leaving it out for months at a time. It’s simply not my productive season for that proper now and will probably be once more sooner or later. There’s a whole lot of good thoughts stuff, extra mindset stuff on this e book, particularly for individuals who might be like very arduous on your self or like an all or nothing character.

Emma: Yeah, I believe that it’s a whole lot of mindset adjustments and actually optimistic ones usually. As a result of, yeah, there’s simply a whole lot of guilt that may come into purpose setting and I actually assume that’s not useful, so discovering methods to eliminate that’s actually good. Okay, so one other factor, lengthy deadlines can even really feel actually daunting. So if you happen to actually do make a purpose that’s gonna take you a yr to perform it, it’s in all probability a extremely massive purpose. Except you break it down into small objectives, you’re in all probability gonna really feel overwhelmed, and that may even result in you giving up. So alongside these strains, I believe lengthy deadlines, after they’re accomplished efficiently, they actually simply are a sequence of quick deadlines. In the event you’re your purpose is, like Elsie loves pottery, I’m making an attempt to write down a e book. So if I’m like, my purpose is to write down a e book, it’s like, okay, effectively the first step is like define, step two, chapter one, you already know, nonetheless many chapters, it’s a sequence of small objectives alongside the way in which. And so I believe the 12 week yr in some methods is simply an acknowledgement that to be able to accomplish one thing massive in a yr or 5 years or no matter, you’re on the deadline. You’re simply gonna have a bunch of small objectives alongside the way in which, and so that you would possibly as effectively simply consider it as, okay, effectively what’s my 12 week plan right here as a result of I received three months to do X, Y, Z. So this type of ties into all of it, however I like quarterly objectives partially as a result of I believe, and I particularly assume this for our work, there’s simply completely different elements of the yr. Perhaps it’s as a result of I dwell someplace with the 4 Seasons, perhaps it’s as a result of I’ve a child, and so like college and daycare might be completely different at completely different occasions and there’s holidays. I don’t know. However for me, I really feel like I can actually go loopy for work in Q1 and Q2 after which Q3 and this autumn there’s, there’s a whole lot of work, however there’s much more like household time and holidays and issues like that. And I like with the ability to sort of consider issues in that means. So then I don’t really feel unhealthy in let’s say this autumn, I’m not working fairly as a lot cuz I’ve a whole lot of vacation stuff going if I sort of knew that and I actually busted my in Q1 and q2, now I’m like, oh, I’m on monitor. You already know, my objectives in This autumn aren’t as profession, they’re extra household cleansing the home, preparing for friends, no matter, they’re extra in that vary. And I can have that 12 weeks be one thing that is smart for my yr versus this yr lengthy purpose that has to embody all these completely different seasons, and it virtually doesn’t make sence.

Elsie: I believe that in This autumn for our enterprise, we sort of do have to enter survival mode yearly as a result of it’s often after we do virtually all of our advertisements, so that you don’t get to select your content material as a lot as you do that time of yr. Yeah, I utterly agree, which is like advertisements and household stuff.

Emma: Yeah. You’re like, what’s do and what’s happening with my household? That’s all I’ve time for. You already know, it’s enjoyable, however it’s a sure season and I believe if you happen to’re anticipating to do a whole lot of deep work for the long run, you’re simply not gonna get to do it that quarter, I by no means do. So anyway, that’s what Q1’s for. So these are sort of my case for the quick deadline, so hopefully we’ve swayed you. I really feel like we in all probability did. 

Elsie: I believe everyone seems to be swayed, I positively am, I’d by no means return. I believe that it’s very compelling. There’s actually nothing that’s higher about lengthy deadlines. No, there’s actually nothing.

Emma: No. Yeah, it’s technique. I agree. 

Elsie: Case’s closed. 

Emma: Case’s closed, so all people’s on board, good. Okay, so then I simply needed to speak about, to me the essential elements of the 12 week yr, some issues he hits on within the e book and issues that may assist you achieve success as you’re making your objectives for the subsequent 12 weeks. Okay, so the primary one is making your imaginative and prescient. How do you resolve what to work on? How do you resolve what objectives you need? Okay, so I believe some issues that assistance is now that you already know that you’ve got 12 weeks you is usually a little extra reasonable about what you will get accomplished in 12 weeks. So that you’re not essentially going to be making a purpose that’s like, I’m going to learn 80 books and go to the gymnasium 100 occasions or no matter.You simply know that that’s not gonna occur in 12 weeks. So now you possibly can focus a bit extra on what’s reasonable to occur in these 12 weeks. And I’d additionally say as you’re making your imaginative and prescient, your objectives, I love to do them in a bunch of various areas. So I wish to sort of have completely different buckets of like, right here’s my private life, which incorporates like hobbies and self care. And generally additionally like well being and wellness stuff, like going to the gymnasium or no matter. Then I consider household, which is usually stuff with my son, however it’s different issues too. And I sort of put mates in there too, so if a buddy’s having a birthday or if a buddy’s going via a tough time, I wanna make time to be there for them or do one thing, and I take into consideration profession. So what am I making an attempt to perform these subsequent 12 weeks at work. Is there one thing that we’re constructing? Is there some sort of massive deadline? Is there one thing that I’ve been wanting to begin and end? Or no less than begin, you already know, once more, you solely have 12 weeks. So what are we getting accomplished in these 12 weeks, that sort of. So I wish to have completely different buckets that’s how I give it some thought. However one thing that I believe is basically essential while you’re making objectives is to ensure that it’s clear and measurable. I believe if you happen to’re like, okay, on the finish of those 12 weeks, let’s say you’re engaged on some psychological well being stuff, you’ve had a tough time and also you’re making an attempt to work on that. Not that that’s essentially me, precisely and I’m simply utilizing myself right here’s an instance, let’s simply say. So if you happen to make the purpose, I simply wanna really feel higher in 12 weeks. It’s like, effectively, Good purpose not precisely very clear. Not precisely very measurable but. What do you actually imply by that? And if it’s like, effectively, I wanna really feel higher, I wanna have much less days the place I’m feeling actually down. I wish to really feel extra hopeful. So attempt to outline it a bit bit extra, after which take into consideration what are some issues that you could possibly measure in that as a result of measuring a sense is basically arduous, that will be very tough. However as an alternative take into consideration like, I wish to be certain I am going to remedy each month. Okay, so then you definitely’re gonna go to remedy 3 times within the subsequent 12 weeks, okay? That’s measurable. Nice, you could possibly try this. I wish to spend extra time with mates. I wish to get some sunshine. I wish to work on endorphin stuff. So perhaps that’s, I’m gonna do some cardio, I’m gonna go to the gymnasium. I’m gonna begin operating no matter factor that you just assume is gonna assist. That is your objectives, however make them measurable issues you could truly know if you happen to achieved it or not, if you happen to did it or not. As a result of while you get to the tip of the 12 weeks, you’re gonna take inventory. You’re gonna say, oh, did I make it? Did I get all of the issues accomplished? And it’s not that you just’re making an attempt to make this massive to-do record and simply undergo the motions. But when issues aren’t clear and measurable, then it is perhaps actually arduous to know in case your like, if you happen to get to the tip of the 12 weeks and also you’re like, I don’t really feel higher, then you definitely’re gonna wanna know why. So is it that you just did all of the issues and people didn’t assist and now you’ve gotta attempt one thing else? Or is it that you just didn’t do the issues, you bought sidetracked, you bought distracted, perhaps one thing occurred the place you couldn’t, one thing main modified in your life, that occurs. But when it issues aren’t clear and measurable, then it’s gonna be actually arduous to know why it labored or didn’t work. Okay, in order that’s sort of about making your imaginative and prescient. Then the subsequent is when you sort of have your imaginative and prescient, develop your plan. So break up your purpose right into a sequence of small objectives, so issues for every month and even every week. And I believe while you’re excited about 12 weeks, that is a lot simpler than while you’re excited about an entire yr as a result of generally I’ll make an enormous record that’s for the entire yr. Elsie and I do that quite a bit for weblog posts, we’re like, right here’s a thousand weblog posts I wanna write as a result of we simply get enthusiastic about concepts. So we at all times have means too many concepts and I like to make an enormous record like that. I believe it’s actually enjoyable, it makes me really feel excited. It makes me really feel like the long run’s stuffed with prospects. So I believe that’s train for these causes. But it surely comes to really executing, so this week for instance, I’m sick. So I had sooner or later the place I used to be principally off cuz I used to be simply actually sick and couldn’t actually work. So then it’s like, okay, I’m gonna take a look at my record and I now have these 1000’s of concepts and solely 4 days to work, what might I get accomplished? Whereas as an alternative, if you happen to had these 5 issues to do that week, is there one which you might want to take off the record since you have been sick. You then simply get to maintain shifting ahead and it simply makes it quite a bit sooner and simpler to comply with if you already know the place you’re going after which you can also make faster changes versus this big, big grasp plan and also you get a barely astray and now you’re tremendous astray.

Elsie: Yeah, I agree. I believe it is a little little bit of time to say my post-it technique. Oh by the way in which, Podcast listeners attempt to diagnose me with h ADHD sort of quite a bit. I’m like, I do know that I in all probability have ADHD so lI get it. In all probability lots of people have undiagnosed ADHD. So when you’ve got any bother with focusing, I believe the massive record, like my weblog submit record for the yr of what I wanna do, it’s stapled collectively, it’s three pages of typed textual content it like it isn’t one thing that I want to take a look at each week. So for me to take a look at a small record of about 5 issues, like sufficiently small to suit on a post-it is what my mind can deal with after which I can select one thing to really work on. So I believe that if you happen to’re an individual who will get simply overwhelmed by an extended record, simply don’t take a look at the lengthy record that always. Each few weeks you possibly can go in and choose some issues from it and hold your self on a small record. I believe it’s only a trick you are able to do on your self that basically works. 

Emma: Sure, I agree and I believe too, it simply makes it the place all people’s busy. All of us have limitations in our life, regardless of for what cause. And I believe that for instance, after I’m writing a e book, as soon as I’ve the define, I instantly really feel means much less overwhelmed as a result of if I’ve two and a half to 3 hours the place I can work on this in the present day, that’s all I’ve. I’m not gonna get to work on it extra perhaps this entire week,however then I take a look at my define and I’m like, oh, chapter 4 I really feel like I actually have a deal with on that. I’m gonna write that proper now, and I do it after which it’s accomplished. And it’s like that’s one thing that now simply moved my entire undertaking ahead in a significant means. Did I end the entire e book? No, however did I write a chapter? Sure I did within the time that I’ve. And so, and that’s, , you already know, kind of it’s like making an attempt to interrupt down these massive issues that we wanna do in life into smaller chunk dimension issues in order that we will truly get them accomplished. As a result of life is filled with a number of different issues which can be by no means gonna be on our record, however we nonetheless need to do them, and that’s simply what life’s like and it’s okay. Okay, so develop your plan and that can assist, break down your purpose into very small objectives. They are often weekly, month-to-month, they’ll even be every day. I’d say too, don’t really feel like they need to be so inflexible as a result of I believe if you happen to do have a really, like each single day this should occur. That doesn’t go away you a lot house for getting sick, or in case your child will get sick or you will have a snow day or the web goes out at your home and you may’t work on the factor you have been gonna work on. You need to go away some margin to let life occur, otherwise you’re actually gonna stress your self out, so try this too. 

Elsie: Yeah, give attention to the massive wins for positive. So long as I can get this a part of my record accomplished, then the remainder of it’s non-obligatory. I believe is an effective means to think about it. 

Emma: Okay, after which the subsequent factor I wanna discuss I believe varies a lot from individual to individual. So it’s accountability and maintaining rating. So that is one thing he talks about within the e book and there’s a number of alternative ways to do it. And I additionally assume it actually relies on you and what works for you. So the entire level is to have mechanisms in place to assist hold your self on monitor. Some persons are very internally motivated or externally motivated, or perhaps they name it intrinsically motivated, I’m undecided. However I’m an individual the place I don’t actually need a whole lot of outdoors accountability. I’m very very similar to on the within, if I’ve determined I wanna do one thing that’s it for me, that’s sufficient. I do want methods to maintain myself on monitor. For instance, my husband, he has a buddy who he at all times goes to the gymnasium with. It’s not that he by no means goes to the gymnasium by himself, he does, however it helps him quite a bit to have this buddy who he goes with. It’s simply kind of an accountability factor. It simply implies that he is aware of his mates there. If that’s the case, if he’s not there then he’s sort of letting him down or that’s in all probability too harsh of a wording, however you already know, one thing alongside these strains. Whereas me, I used to be making an attempt to get again into the gymnasium this yr for my psychological well being causes, and so I used to be contemplating becoming a member of this new gymnasium the place all my mates go. I went as soon as and it was actually enjoyable to see everybody. It sort of dawned on me thatI’m simply not very externally motivated. I’m a really inside, intrinsically motivated individual, so I truly don’t actually need somebody there. I simply must have it in my thoughts that that is essential to me and I must have purchased into the rationale why, and for me that’s ok. And as soon as I’ve that, then I simply need to sort of have my mechanisms to maintain myself on monitor. For me, I’m a bit bit extra of a reward system individual. I believe you’re like this too, Elsie. I wish to have a bit reward on the finish of an enormous purpose, like as soon as I obtain it then I’m like, oh, I’m shopping for myself this in all probability new jumpsuit or no matter it’s. I’m doing one thing, I’m taking myself out to get my nails accomplished, no matter. I’m a bit extra of a rewards individual and I wish to set these for myself. However yeah, you is perhaps an individual who you actually wish to work with others, perhaps you want engaged on groups. Perhaps you want an accountability associate for sure objectives. These are nice instruments and if that’s one thing that helps you, you must do it. However they’re not essentially for me and I don’t actually assume they’re for you both,Elise. That’s why we thrive a lot at working alone and being alone quite a bit, however I do like reward methods. 

Elsie: I like rewards too and for me I believe you’re a pure finisher and I’m not. So for me, I like to search out one thing to assist me get previous the half the place I failed earlier than, which is often, relying on what kind of undertaking, it’s often the center or round like day 10 when issues get boring. The purpose the place issues get boring, all the novelty is worn off is often arduous for me to get previous. I’m very into beginning one thing. In my life I’ve in all probability began lots of of issues that I did for sooner or later, which is basically humorous. So, beginning is like my happiest level after which the remainder of it I’ve to maintain myself someway externally motivated. A rewards system is basically good for me. I believe that I don’t wanna depend on different folks as a result of that’s simply not reasonable for my life-style. So I believe I just like the little rewards. Additionally, the opposite factor I actually like is charts the place you coloration in one thing for both every day or every milestone, nonetheless the chart goes. However I actually just like the coloring in charts are very useful for me as a result of when you get to a sure level, it’s like a bit bit addictive to maintain going and similar to get to that utterly full level. However yeah, I believe that the factor I preferred from the 12 yr was the half about score your self. I believe it’s a bit bizarre, however I’ve accomplished it earlier than and I really feel like I’m often a bit bit harsh. But it surely doesn’t actually matter if you happen to’re harsh or beneficiant, so long as you’re constant, sort of doesn’t matter. It’s only a solution to hold your self making an attempt to do higher. And I do assume that having your individual accountability is so significantly better than making an attempt to get another person to carry you accountable. I’ve by no means discovered one other individual holding me accountable to be as efficient and constant as one thing I might do myself.

Emma: I additionally assume like I simply have an actual, I don’t know a great way to say this, however I don’t actually care what different folks assume that a lot, if I care what you assume, then I do and if I don’t, I don’t. That’s simply what I’ve at all times been like. And I believe at occasions in my life that served me very well and at different occasions in my life, it’s made it the place I’ve been sort of remoted. But it surely’s simply what I’m like. It doesn’t inspire for me as a result of if I’ve determined that’s not my purpose and my accountability associate or no matter was like we’re nonetheless doing this. I’d be like, no, I’m not and I’m similar to not motivated by outdoors forces. However on the score factor, I believe it’s a bit bizarre too, however one factor I like about it’s I do assume it permits extra. I choose a category that’s like, you will get an A or you will get an F and every little thing in between. I believe move fail is sort of nerve-wracking a bit bit. So I like that in, no less than in my world, and score myself, I may give myself like a stable B minus and be like, Hey, it’s not so unhealthy, however you could possibly do higher, I like that. So then it feels such as you’re not a failure. You didn’t fail, however you could possibly do some higher. You didn’t get an A and I, I like that as a result of then it’s like, all proper, I’m gonna hold making an attempt, I’m not gonna hand over on this. However I see that there’s some areas the place I can enhance considerably. So I like issues which have a whole lot of scale or a whole lot of grey. I don’t do as effectively in like black and white conditions, I suppose. After which actually the very last thing that I needed to speak about with 12 week yr was a check-in, the check-in time, which is week 13, so on the finish of your 12 weeks, it’s time to test in. So a pair issues to consider with that. Clearly, It’s good to only take time on the finish of this timeframe or any kind of purpose setting factor to see how you probably did to fee your self to only test in as a result of I believe a whole lot of occasions, no less than for me, perhaps this comes pure for others, however for me, I’m a really ahead shifting individual. I really feel like I can end one thing and I don’t even actually discuss it, and it doesn’t even actually register and I’ll simply hold shifting to the subsequent purpose. After which I’ll see a buddy who I haven’t seen in a pair months and they are often like, Hey, did you end writing that novel you have been engaged on? And I’m like, oh yeah, I did. Yeah, that was enjoyable, I’m engaged on this now. That’s what I’m like generally and I believe it’s cool that you’ve got a whole lot of objectives in life, however you didn’t actually take any time to, one, rejoice when you’ve got success, so try this, don’t make that mistake. Have a good time when you will have successes, as a result of that’s what life ought to be stuffed with is getting higher and higher at purpose setting, at no matter it’s that you just’re eager to do together with your time. So aside from celebrating your successes, I additionally assume checking in is an effective time, particularly if you happen to’re new to the 12 week yr to only sort of seeing the way it went. As a result of right here’s the factor, you would possibly get to the tip of 12 weeks and notice, wow, I made means too massive of objectives, so I epically failed didn’t get them accomplished, and never as a result of I didn’t attempt actually arduous however as a result of they have been too massive, they have been an excessive amount of for 12 weeks, and that’s okay, you don’t must really feel unhealthy about that. You simply want to regulate for the subsequent 12 weeks. You should be extra reasonable and you could possibly additionally get to the tip of your 12 weeks and be like, that was sort of straightforward. I used to be sort of accomplished six weeks via and it’s like you could possibly do extra. You may add extra to your 12 week, to your quarter purpose record as a result of yours have been too straightforward and that’s okay too however now it’s time to readjust. So long as you’re taking inventory of how the final quarter went, you’re gonna be capable of higher make objectives for the subsequent 12 weeks. And it’s also possible to sort of see how did life change? How do you know my objectives change or something like that. I additionally had this second, so this occurred to me in January of this yr I received to the tip of the month and I used to be feeling actually down as a result of I had been actually sick. I used to be sick for like two stable weeks. I’ve a toddler, so I’m sick lot, simply kind of a part of it. It’s winter, we additionally had some snow days, which was actually enjoyable, however it sort of received me off of a few of my objectives of attending to the gymnasium and strolling extra for my psychological well being. However what I did was I used to be feeling actually down after which I sort of checked out my to-do record that I sustain on my bulletin board in my workplace and it has all my work stuff and I additionally put my private issues on there, simply because I’ve it multi functional place and it’s larger than a post-it like Elsie was speaking about however it’s sufficiently small that I can take a look at it and one fast look and so I like that it retains me on monitor and I spotlight it, in order that’s my coloring means of seeing what I received. .And so I used to be it and I noticed that like 90% of it was highlighted. Like I nonetheless received quite a bit accomplished in January, despite the fact that I felt actually crappy and I used to be actually sick and I had much more days off than I used to be sort of planning on as a result of we had snow days. However I noticed like, Hey, truly I’m glad I’m taking this second to take inventory, as a result of truly this month went very well. I received quite a bit accomplished after I had time to work, I actually busted out and after I didn’t get to work as a result of I used to be sick or we had a snow day, I rested or I performed with my son cuz he was dwelling and that was cool too, that was obligatory, the resting. Enjoying together with your son’s extra enjoyable than obligatory, it’s not the phrase I’d use, it’s far more enjoyable than obligatory. It’s additionally obligatory, however it’s not identical. 

Elsie: It’s a part of life proper now, for positive. 

Emma: The variety of occasions I’ve watched the vehicles motion pictures this month is simply too many occasions, however love you Lightning McQueen. Anyway, so I believe generally having this check-in time, if nothing else, it will possibly sort of power you to understand that you just did a greater job than perhaps you have been pondering, or no less than that’s what I discover occurs for me quite a bit is I believe I’ve these grand concepts and I truly get quite a bit accomplished, however it doesn’t at all times really feel so nice within the second. So when you will have these occasions the place you let your self test in, perhaps you do want to regulate. Perhaps issues went terribly and you might want to make some changes, however perhaps additionally issues are higher than you assume and also you’re simply sort of arduous on your self, which is what I do.

Elsie: My first month went terribly. Yeah, you do want to regulate.

Emma: That’s okay, that’s advantageous too. It’s not the tip of the world to regulate. The rest? Another ideas you needed to share in regards to the 12 week yr? 

Elsie: Yeah. I believe while you don’t make your objectives, I’d say I don’t make my objectives like more often than not, and I believe that’s regular, particularly when a whole lot of the objectives are one thing massive that you just’ve by no means accomplished earlier than otherwise you generally tend of placing too many on every record. So I believe for the subsequent time, in case you are a purpose repeater like me, the place you’re like, I didn’t make that, however I’m gonna attempt once more. Then I believe making some kind of edit to attempt to tackle the ache level. So for myself, my ache level is often it’s arduous to get began or it’s arduous to maintain going as soon as it will get boring, that are each completely different however it’s gonna occur time and again and over for the remainder of my life since you solely get one mind. So I believe discovering little methods to inspire your self previous your ache factors, I believe might be actually sensible when. You’re in all probability gonna have a whole lot of the identical objectives, like time and again all through your years or comparable no less than. So it’s one thing you possibly can positively get higher at, like tricking your individual mind and placing your self in your absolute best place for achievement. I believe that no matter you need to do for me, the little rewards are good, the little charts, however do no matter you need to do to offer your self that absolute best likelihood.

Emma: I believe that ought to be a T-shirt, you solely get one mind. 

Elsie: It’s true. There’s so many occasions I evaluate myself to Emma as a result of Emma is sort of a finisher in any respect prices. She finishes every little thing and I don’t end in all probability like a tenth of the issues that you just do, however I don’t have an opportunity to dwell life together with your mind. So, it’s prefer it doesn’t actually matter, it’s an entire waste of time principally to check myself to somebody who has completely different strategies. So the one strategies that I can enhance upon are those that work for me. So yeah, I believe simply discover the issues that inspire you and actually use these strategies.

Emma: Yeah, I do assume there’s not a whole lot of worth in evaluating your self usually, however evaluating your mind since we’re on that matter to different folks as a result of it’s such as you’re not gonna be that individual and possibly, there’s truly a whole lot of strengths to being your self. There’s tons of issues that I want I used to be like, you extra, however I’m not and I’m not gonna be, so I can simply admire them about you and I’ll simply worth the issues about me. Which I do assume certainly one of my issues is I do like to complete issues and I like that about myself. There’s different occasions I want I used to be a bit extra of a perfectionist, however I’m not and there’s no likelihood of it. So I simply need to know that about myself and simply power myself to decelerate. Or redo one thing if it must be redone and be extra sincere about that. As a result of I’m simply not a perfectionist and I believe that that’s okay, however it will possibly maintain again my work from being higher than I believe it might be at occasions. So anyway. Yep, we’re who we’re. Settle for it and develop. 

Elsie: For positive. I believe you actually need to embrace what your pure strengths and weaknesses are, after which use this to get a bit bit extra accomplished. However I felt prefer it made an enormous distinction for me. I really like the prospect to have extra contemporary begins and yeah, I actually don’t see why beginning an enormous purpose solely each January, it doesn’t even make sense as a result of January will not be even the most effective month. It’s positively not my prime for like something. And it’s like additionally for folks like us with little children, it’s such as you’re recovering from the hangover of placing on a magical vacation to your children. Which is quite a bit if your own home quite a bit. 

Emma: I believe too, like most individuals I believe, determine with this like the start a part of any undertaking and the purpose setting time is basically enjoyable. It’s thrilling cuz it’s the dreaming half, such as you’re dreaming of all these belongings you wanna do and so that you get to try this 4 occasions a yr as an alternative of only one time a yr if you happen to do the 12 week yr. And that’s, I believe, extra enjoyable. It’s 3 times as enjoyable, it’s far more enjoyable. Okay, so I believe that’s about it on that. The subsequent factor I needed to speak about was the excessive 5 check. So if folks haven’t heard of this perhaps simply inform ’em like the way you heard of it, since you despatched it to me, you have been like, take this check, I used to be like, okay. So how did you even hear about it? It’s sort of like energy finder, however it’s not, I don’t know. 

Elsie: So a listener requested that we do like energy finder check and I discovered this check simply by Googling free energy finder check. What’s the precise web site? 

Emma: It’s excessive 5 check.com.

Elsie: And it was with a quantity 5, excessive quantity 5. check.com. Okay, so we did this, these exams, it’s free. I couldn’t get my husband to do it, however I received Emma to do it. So , that was half of a win. It offers you a prime 5 strengths and Emma and I had like a number of of the identical strengths which I used to be not anticipating, however then it did make a whole lot of sense. After which those which can be completely different additionally make a whole lot of sense. So anyway, ought to we learn what our strengths have been? My prime one is Catalyst, my second one is Optimist, my third is Filo Math, which implies somebody who likes to study. The subsequent one is Thinker, and the final one is timekeeper. This was actually fascinating, I used to be not stunned that I had optimist up actually excessive. I do assume that’s certainly one of my strengths and my entire key to success of my entire life is like believing you already know, just like the lady from TikTok who says, How arduous can or not it’s syndrome, I sort of have that and I’ve at all times felt that I might do something that I wish to do in life. And I believe it’s a means my mind was born. After which a love of studying I positively assume that’s one thing we share. That one’s in your record too, proper? Yeah. F 

Emma: Yeah Filo math was my primary.

Elsie: Had been there every other ones that we have been sharing? Thinker? That is smart too after which timekeeper. This one was fascinating as a result of it mentioned that I principally preferred to race myself, which is true. My solely means of getting issues accomplished, it’s virtually like a bit child while you set the timer for them to scrub their room, that’s nonetheless how I’m to this present day about any purpose. If I’m not on an aggressive deadline, I’m in all probability not even engaged on it. In order that’s like my entire technique.

Emma: I used to be filo math, timekeeper, focus skilled, deliverer, and thinker. Focus. 

Elsie: Focus Professional is like the right solution to describe you as a result of I don’t assume very many individuals would relate with how effectively you focus since you similar to don’t get in your telephone. You simply don’t have a distractable mind the way in which that most individuals do. 

Emma: Properly, I don’t know if that’s wholly true. I positively get on my telephone generally. However Yeah, I do assume certainly one of my strengths is I can give attention to issues. I at all times chalk it as much as that we needed to sit via so many boring sermons rising up, and I simply received actually good at focusing throughout something. 

Elsie: We have been skilled in highschool, throughout our church years, we have been skilled to be observe takers in the course of the sermons that was like principally the way in which that you just present that you just’re being well mannered and listening and I do assume that was an especially good behavior of studying get essentially the most out. Sermons are no less than in our church, have been extraordinarily boring. I believe we received essentially the most out of it that we might, no less than you possibly can keep in mind, like one thing from what your favourite half was and issues like that. 

Emma: Yeah, mine additionally was love of studying.

Elsie: Wait, learn them once more. 

Emma: Principally do filo math, which once more, I don’t know pronounce that both. That’s what I’m gonna go along with filo Math, timekeeper, focus skilled, deliverer and thinker and I believe deliverer was not in your record. 

Elsie: Deliverer, I believe that is why we’re such staff collectively as a result of I’ve just like the catalyst and the optimist which can be completely different and you’ve got deliverer and focus skilled which can be completely different and I believe that that’s like quite a bit to supply one another. 

Emma: Yeah. So I believe you’re like, how arduous can or not it’s? And I’m like, effectively, I suppose we’ll simply end

Elsie: I like it. Yeah, I hope that a few of you’re taking it. I believe it was extraordinarily correct and fascinating. I’m gonna push my husband once more to take it as a result of I simply wanna perceive that little mind. I want I might push, mine’s a screenshot, so I can’t push on what catalyst means. I want I might learn what it meant, perhaps I’ll look it up actual quick. It means you can’t wait to begin your undertaking, you begin it immediately, you like beginning. That sounds proper. 

Emma: You’re keen on beginning and I really like ending, so we’re an important staff. I additionally thought it was humorous. So it sort of has 4 completely different energy households and your issues might be in any of those 4 households and the households are pondering, doing, feeling, and motivating and all of mine are within the pondering and doing. So I’ve no strengths in feeling or motivating, so if you’d like somebody who can inspire you, I’m not that individual. And if you’d like somebody who has a whole lot of emotions, I suppose I’m not that individual both. I don’t know. Clearly I do have a whole lot of emotions, however I don’t know I simply thought that was sort of humorous. I do assume after I’m working or after I’m making an attempt to perform, which doesn’t need to be work associated like profession, it might be no matter. I do assume I’m very, let’s do issues like I’ve an inventory. Even in being a mother, it’s not that I don’t inform Oscar how a lot I really like him or how proud I’m of him, I inform him each single day how proud I’m of him. However I additionally assume very a lot by way of, okay, it’s Saturday, what are we going to do? We’re going to go get a donut. Don assume that’s what we’re going to do.

Elsie: I don’t assume that’s what it means although, I don’t assume it implies that you’re not an emotive individual.I’ll cease in the course of a undertaking simply to cry and also you don’t try this. You already know what I imply? 

Emma: Yeah. I imply, I would actually, however I believe it’s extra of, how do you. I don’t know clarify this. How do you want undergo life? As a result of to me, it’s not that I don’t emote or have emotions on issues, I simply don’t assume by way of my emotions so far as like, what am I going to perform this weekend? Or what’s my life about? I don’t actually assume by way of emotions or I consider it extra in what I’m gonna do and attain. I don’t know, however I believe lots of people try this, so I’m not likely positive. I simply thought it was humorous that each one of mine have been very concentrated. I’d like to fulfill an individual who has one energy in every of the 4 households, and so they’re this like completely balanced individual, however in all probability that’s not likely even the way it works. 

Elsie: Yeah, mine has 4 colours. 

Emma: Oh, you’re a balanced individual then. 

Elsie: However I don’t really feel balanced both. I don’t really feel extra balanced than you.

Emma: Mine is like all two colours, not one of the different two . 

Elsie: Properly, I’m grateful to your strengths and I believe it’s kind of like Enneagram or something. It’s similar to good to know. So to perceive different folks higher. So I believe it’s very useful. 

Emma: Sure, I like something that helps you perceive your self or the world higher. I don’t actually like issues that put us in containers. I wish to make jokes about being a sure means or no matter, however to me that’s simply me being a bit bit self-deprecating for enjoyable. I truly don’t actually view it that means, I believe it’s only a device for self enhance as a result of I don’t have strengths in these different two areas, I can’t be that means. I don’t truly consider that. I wish to say a joke about it however that’s not truly my perception. 

Elsie: Yeah. No, I don’t both. I simply know I don’t take pleasure in ending, however I nonetheless know that I can, and I believe that that’s simply the one distinction. It’s like, for positive I can do it, you already know?

Emma: Yeah. How arduous can or not it’s? Prefer it’s arduous, isn’t that what Elwood says? Yeah. I received into Harvard, prefer it’s arduous. 

Elsie: Yeah. I wanna watch Legally Blonde, let’s try this film. 

Emma: Yeah, we should always try this for every week we watch. It’s one. 

Elsie: Okay, now it’s time for everybody’s favourite, a joker a truth with Nova. Right here’s Nova. 

Nova: A joke is, what’s a polar bear within the rain? A drizzly bear? 

Elsie: Oh, I like that one. That’s joke. Okay, thanks Nova. 

Nova: Bye everybody. 

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Elsie: I see all these critiques although, and I do know that they’re from our podcast, listeners. So thanks a lot.We’ll be again subsequent week with a, you’ve received mail rewatch, so if you wish to give your self a bit deal with this week in preparation, there’s your warning.


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