This week, Elsie is sharing an enormous private replace (a yr within the making)!
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Present Notes
Elsie is transferring!!!
Why we determined to maneuver:
-We not have a profession purpose to dwell in Nashville
-Considered one of our dad and mom had a well being scare
-To see Emma and Oscar extra
Favourite issues concerning the new home:
-Curb enchantment, seems to be like a film home
-Fire within the kitchen
-A number of potential
Very first thing Elsie purchased:
Lighting fixtures (classic and new). Listed below are some hyperlinks: Metallic Lanterns / Hand Sconce / 3-Gentle Chandelier / Spherical Chandelier
What we are going to miss most about our dwelling in Tennessee:
-Buddies
–Hewitt Backyard and Design Middle
-Our hidden library and library eating room
What Emma is worked up for:
-Working collectively
-Being a extra current aunt
-Recording the podcast collectively
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Episode 171 Transcript:
Elise: You’re listening to The Stunning Mess Podcast, your cozy consolation pay attention. This week I’m sharing an enormous private replace a yr within the making, so seize a cup of espresso or tea and prepare to listen to the lengthy model of when and why I’m transferring again to my hometown in Missouri.
Emma: Dum, dum, dum, dum.
Elise: I can’t imagine it. Emma was simply saying, we really feel like we’ve got been speaking about this for a yr as a result of it was like a really slow-coming resolution on our half and one thing that we’ve been engaged on for a very long time. However we wished to attend till it was very official to share it right here. So yeah, it feels unusual to lastly speak.
Emma: Yeah, and sadly we already named an episode, “Oops, I’m transferring once more” so we are able to’t reuse that, however it’s true as soon as once more.
Elise: Sure, completely. So, one thing that I noticed about myself type of just lately, despite the fact that it’s been occurring my whole life, is that I’m obsessive about change, completely always. So the longest I’ve ever lived in any dwelling was for 4 and a half years the place we lived in our first dwelling in Tennessee the place we adopted our youngsters and all the things. In order that’s the longest I’ve ever lived wherever since I moved out from my mum or dad’s home. However more often than not I’ve moved yearly or two, which I don’t like that about myself. I don’t condone it as a very good way of life. I don’t suppose it’s wholesome, and it’s not what I would like for my youngsters sooner or later, however I’m admitting that it’s true. And that it’s one thing that has at all times been, I’ll at all times be only a one that has a whole lot of itch for change. So I assume I’m gonna have to determine a method to categorical that in different methods.
Emma: Yeah, I believe expressing in different methods is an efficient method to put it. Trigger I really don’t suppose it’s unhealthy to crave change and to need to transfer and to desire a recent begin. I believe that’s truthfully like fairly regular. I simply suppose your life’s now at a spot, you understand, you was once like after highschool and stuff, you’re single and you then get married and it’s simply you two, after which, you understand, however, and yeah, so now you could have much more individuals to contemplate. It impacts much more individuals if you happen to transfer now than it used to, and so naturally I believe may need to vary considerably, however I wouldn’t say it’s unhealthy to crave change and to desire a recent begin. I believe that’s actually fairly regular. I simply suppose there are a whole lot of methods to precise it.
Elise: Yeah. And I do need my youngsters to have a childhood dwelling that they bear in mind as their childhood dwelling, not like 10. I like absolutely admit that. However anyway, we nonetheless are the place we’re proper now. So let’s inform this entire story as a result of I do know from simply having advised my shut mates over the previous yr, I do know all of the questions persons are gonna ask and there are such a lot of legitimate questions. So to begin out the story, why we determined to maneuver, cuz the home we dwell in now, we fully adore it. There’s nothing about it aside from the truth that it’s not outdated, there’s nothing about it I might change, I like this dwelling. I’m actually proud of the initiatives we did. I added all my fake fireplaces and bookshelves and the hidden library, which is like my soulmate challenge of my life. And we adore it right here and we’ve got nothing unhealthy to say about Nashville. Not one single factor, not even the bachelorettes. Nothing to say unhealthy. We’ve beloved our entire eight years right here and I believe that we simply realized after we moved right here throughout the Covid period, that Jeremy’s profession had modified. So we moved right here initially cuz my husband was engaged on his profession in songwriting. And he did a whole lot of songwriting. He did a whole lot of the songwriting that you simply watch on television. In case you see a film like, what’s that film with Woman Gaga? Are you aware what I imply? And Bradley Cooper.
Emma: Yeah, A Star is Born.
Elise: Sure. Like that kind of factor the place individuals like to sit down down with a guitar and truly write a track collectively. Folks in Nashville try this on a regular basis, and Jeremy tried that, however it’s simply not how his artistic mind works. So he hasn’t been doing that for some time, however he would kind of work just about with individuals and he was nonetheless songwriting just about since I met. However over the past couple years, he began this different enterprise, which is a digital instrument enterprise. So it’s nonetheless in music, however it’s fully completely different from songwriting. However he makes like the entire pattern music for it and stuff just like the demos that they launched to show about their devices. So he’s very fulfilled, he’s doing his dream and he’s not songwriting anymore. So as soon as we began to comprehend that, we have been like, you understand, we don’t want to remain in Nashville and our youngsters are on the age the place if we’re going to go away, we wanna take into consideration that now. We don’t wanna wait too lengthy as a result of I do know all dad and mom have completely different opinions, however lots of people have advised me to attempt to get it achieved as early as potential after which keep settled by their older years of college if potential. So anyway, final Christmas I acquired actually bored the week after Christmas, as all of us do. And I used to be sitting on the pink home and I believe Jeremy was like working within the bed room on his songs for his firm. And I used to be like on Zillow and I do know all of it goes hill from right here. And I fell into this factor of, for days researching like mainly each metropolis within the US the place I would wanna dwell, and, unexpectedly I wished to maneuver to New York. I discovered a neighborhood after which I simply fell down this rabbit gap that was months lengthy the place we have been critically contemplating transferring to New York. I bear in mind after I advised Emma we have been within the car parking zone of Shake Shack and he or she was like, properly, I assume I’ll take pleasure in visiting you in New York she felt prefer it was simply inevitable.
Emma: Often when Elsie says she’s doing one thing, I imply, in all probability your husband feels completely different, however I’m simply type of like, properly, I assume she’s doing that, so yeah. I’m not gonna speak her out of it. So, you understand, it’s simply occurring.
Elise: Yeah, we discovered this lovable, like I’m obsessed, good little neighborhood. And we visited there, we had a realtor, we did like all these steps and my husband was, Into it a bit bit, however he was manner, manner, far more hesitant than I used to be. I used to be undoubtedly the one who was steamrolling the state of affairs a bit bit and he was pondering it over nonetheless, I assume. After which final summer time we had a state of affairs the place one in every of our dad and mom had a well being scare that was very severe and really scary, and I might say life-changing in similar to, it was a second for me to comprehend that this a part of our life isn’t going to final eternally and that I haven’t been spending the type of time with my dad and mom and properly with my in-laws and my dad and mom that I need to spend. The opposite factor that additionally was changing into clear at the moment is that Emma has a bit child and I used to be seeing him like 5 occasions a yr after I felt like I could possibly be seeing him like 50 occasions a yr or 100 occasions a yr. After I see him, he doesn’t actually acknowledge me, which is like laborious for me as a result of clearly, I wanna be an enormous a part of his life, however that’s not potential in a day-to-day manner once you dwell in one other state. So perhaps once they’re a bit older it’s a bit bit simpler, however that’s one other consideration I used to be pondering over. So, yeah, contemplating transferring to New York was like a dream within the metropolis manner, however in a household manner, it was in all probability gonna make our struggles even worse.
Emma: Yeah as a result of additionally there are not any direct flights from Springfield, Missouri, our hometown, the place each her dad and mom dwell in her in-laws and likewise me, to New York. The closest metropolis it’s important to go to for a direct flight I believe is Bentonville.
Elise: There are just about no direct flights wherever aside from Florida and one or two different locations.
Emma: Which, it’s not the tip of the world to have a connecting flight, that’s actually not an enormous deal. But it surely’s a time of yr when there’s unhealthy climate. It simply will get dicey the place it might probably type of mess up your journey or make it the place your journey is longer, however you see your loved ones even much less, you understand what I imply? It’s simply one other issue.
Elise: So anyway, I’m gonna type of simply skip over the New York half, however I wished to acknowledge it cuz it was type of an enormous a part of the yr. I advised in all probability dozens of those that we have been transferring there and we have been very severe about it for some time, however it wasn’t a long-lasting plan.
Emma: Effectively, what I believe’s humorous about that’s Elsie and I’ve been to New York Metropolis many occasions for work through the years and for enjoyable. New York is clearly a very cool metropolis. Clearly, it’s very well-known. It’s in each single film ever of all time, mainly. So it’s actually cool, however it’s by no means a spot that both of us was ever simply dying to dwell in New York. I believe everybody has a good friend who’s like, huge cities are the place for me. And we have been by no means that manner. In order that’s only one factor that I type of like about you is that you’ll open up your coronary heart to one thing that you simply beforehand have been like, no. Like Elsie type of has no downside being like, oh, I used to be incorrect about that. And now I adore it. And I believe that’s type of like a enjoyable factor about you.
Elise: Thanks. Yeah, no, I wished to dwell in a Victorian home in Brooklyn, which is fairly completely different from dwelling in like skyscraper in Manhattan or no matter. However yeah, it was unusual as a result of I by no means thought, however now I believe like that’s undoubtedly my coast. Like if ever sooner or later, you understand? I’m very drawn to that a part of the nation proper now. At this level, I’m simply gonna like go to there 100 occasions as a result of it’s a good spot too. Anyway, so when our dad and mom had the well being scare, and so my husband and I had a heart-to-heart. It was after we had gone on a household journey along with his household in the summertime. We do it like yearly for the 4th of July, and we have been driving dwelling and we had a heart-to-heart the place he mentioned, would you contemplate transferring again to Springfield? And up till that time, in that entire eight years we had lived in Tennessee, I had a number of factors the place I used to be like, perhaps we should always transfer again to Springfield as a result of there’s like, you’ll be able to’t dwell away out of your entire household with out having these factors every now and then. It’s similar to regular. However he had by no means had that earlier than, he simply was very certain that he didn’t wanna transfer again.
Emma: He’s not an enormous mover both. He’s type of a settle-down type of particular person, you understand?
Elise: Yeah. So for no matter purpose, as quickly as he mentioned it, I already knew that it was occurring, and I felt like my first response was anger as a result of I felt like I wasn’t getting a selection. So I mentioned I simply want to consider it for a few weeks. So we acquired dwelling and I did my entire course of, which I assume I can clarify my Stalkery dwelling course of. I did this in New York too, however I went on Zillow for our hometown and I mainly undergo each single avenue and have a look at each single home even when a home isn’t on the market, there’s like outdated photos from 5 years in the past or one thing of the final time it was on the market typically like 10 years in the past. And so I did that, there’s just about like one neighborhood in Springfield that we knew we appreciated, after which one different avenue. So just about all these homes, I’ve seen them if it’s potential too, after which we went there in particular person a few weeks later and did some actually intense strolling excursions and driving by, of each single dwelling. And we wrote down all of the addresses.
Emma: Couple of break-ins too. Simply kidding.
Elise: That’s humorous. And one thing I knew straight away was, I knew that we have been in all probability gonna transfer there. I used to be simply in a part of getting towards the acceptance of it. As a result of clearly, I need to, I like being round Emma and with the ability to do our work collectively as a substitute of getting to always journey or be actually restricted. Being round my nieces and nephews, there are a ton of them, are additionally all my youngsters’ cousins. That could be a actually huge factor for us. After which being round our dad and mom is an enormous factor. And I nonetheless have a grandma who resides, which is like one of the best factor ever. Anyway, I used to be open to it, however I used to be simply looking for a method to trick my mind into not being unhappy as a result of I used to be actually hooked up to the concept of transferring to this sure neighborhood in New York and I had gotten too far alongside and it like emotionally invested. So I noticed {that a} home popping up that was quote-unquote good for what we have been on the lookout for in all probability wasn’t going to occur due to the actual property this previous yr. Anybody who’s been home procuring is aware of, it’s just like the stock is nearly nothing. Like homes simply aren’t popping up after which when a very good one does pop up, it normally sells instantly. So we began pondering creatively as a result of as soon as we realized we have been gonna transfer, we have been like, okay, properly we have to transfer both over Christmas or over summer time break due to youngsters’, faculties, there’s no different time to maneuver and that’s necessary. So, I began doing letter writing. In case you’ve ever heard of this, I’ll clarify what it’s in case you couldn’t think about that anybody would ever do that after which I’ll clarify precisely what we did. So I had heard about a few success tales previously, however truthfully, for essentially the most half, it doesn’t work. And I knew that however I additionally felt prefer it was the one possibility I had for the time being, and I wished to be proactive and do one thing as a result of simply ready and seeing that there have been no homes that we might even have a look at for months and months and months and months that’s discouraging. So I used to be simply looking for a method to transfer it ahead in my very own manner.
Emma: Yeah. Plus what have you ever acquired to, you understand, may as properly.
Elise: So we might write letters. I believe we wrote a complete of both 4 or 5, I can’t bear in mind. So how I chosen the homes was just about simply by location and figuring out if the home was like some homes, we may see outdated photos from the final time it bought, and in among the homes, we couldn’t see something. We simply knew the tough sq. footage or we may simply see it from the skin and we have been similar to, this might in all probability work. Yeah. We knew we wished a bit little bit of an even bigger home as a result of we prefer to have each of our workspaces in our dwelling. And that’s one thing that now that we’ve achieved it so many occasions, we wouldn’t compromise once more on we don’t need workplaces exterior of the house. Anyway, I picked a few homes after which my husband picked a few homes. And I wrote handwritten letters to the house owners. If I may discover their names, I put their names, however normally, you’ll be able to’t. I simply put proprietor and I knew it appeared like spam. So for individuals who dwell in any type of a fascinating neighborhood, you’ll typically get these letters that type of look handwritten, however additionally they look type of pretend the place it’s like, I need to purchase your own home. However you’ll be able to inform it’s not actual.
Emma: I’ve really additionally, like the primary home I ever purchased, which I talked about in a earlier episode a very long time in the past, we nonetheless personal it and it’s a long-term rental. I get letters on a regular basis that’s like not somebody who desires to purchase the home to dwell in it such as you. It’s extra similar to an investor, I assume. That’s simply wanting to purchase the home cuz it matches their standards or no matter prefer it’s in the fitting neighborhood or no matter. And you may type of at all times inform, cuz it does, it’ll say proprietor, it doesn’t normally say my title, however typically it says my title. And typically they’ll look a bit extra handwritten, however you then open ’em up and it’s simply very like spammy. It’s similar to, we wanna purchase your home for the bottom potential worth and maintain renting it and it’s like, okay, properly I don’t wanna promote it proper now. So yeah, I believe individuals get these letters and so they can come off type of like spammy.
Elise: Yeah. So I might have my youngsters draw on the skin of the envelope, like a bit crown drawing, I felt like that was like a sign to point out that it is a actual letter coming from an actual household. I didn’t put photos in it as a result of I simply personally hate it when individuals ship photos once they’re making an attempt to purchase my homes. Like once you get affords with photos, I simply suppose they’re awkward, so I didn’t try this, however I do know lots of people suppose they’re candy and perhaps I’m incorrect to say that. However I simply wrote mainly our household has been dwelling in Nashville for eight years and we’ve got determined to maneuver to our hometown over the following yr so if you’re in any respect and I like underlined in any respect, in promoting your home throughout the subsequent yr, please let me know and I might love to debate. And if not, you could have a lovely dwelling, you understand all that. Have a very good day. After which I would go away my telephone quantity and my e-mail. So I acquired again three responses out of, I believe 4 or 5 letters. So I believed that was fairly good. The primary one was saying perhaps subsequent yr, which was type of the worst potential response as a result of it’s like you’ll be able to’t make any plan, however you could have your hopes up a bit bit. And I by no means heard from them once more. And it was similar to perhaps subsequent yr, and the second was completely not , which I appreciated them sending me a textual content. And yeah, it wasn’t like actual pleasant, but in addition I get it they may not have recognized if I used to be an actual particular person or not. After which, it could possibly be a scammer. After which the third one was, Emma was with me after I acquired this textual content. It was Jeremy’s first selection for a home, I’ll say that. Initially. So it was like out of all the homes, it was in all probability the best-located home and it was a home that I at all times drove by and like lusted after as a 20-year-old and stuff. It was simply a type of homes that you simply drive by in your hometown and also you’re like, what’s that one? Are you aware what I imply? Such as you would like to go inside it sort of factor. And so they despatched me a textual content and it mentioned, concerning the property at blah, blah, blah, tackle Elsie, I couldn’t imagine after I opened your letter with all of the candy drawings out of your women, apart from following a lovely mess for years, you photographed our wedding ceremony in 2004. I believe we’d have been one of many final weddings after which she describes which wedding ceremony it’s after which she mentioned, my husband, Clean and I’ve been pondering of transferring for some time now. After which she describes a whole lot of her private state of affairs of why they wanna transfer and so they say, we might be blissful to maneuver ahead and work out some particulars. Your letter has are available in such a serendipitous manner that I might love for this wonderful dwelling to go to somebody like your loved ones, who I do know would treasure it. So, yeah. It was top-of-the-line moments ever. And I had been asking the universe for an indication as a result of I used to be nonetheless experiencing a whole lot of regret, and disappointment about, simply particularly not planning to maneuver to this neighborhood in Brooklyn anymore and I used to be nonetheless getting over that. So after I acquired this textual content, I did take it as an indication that we have been on the fitting path, as a result of I simply suppose that, I imply, I solely photographed weddings for like two years after I was in my early twenties. It was my first enterprise. I’ve by no means heard from anybody once more. It was only a actually very long time in the past, virtually 20 years. So, yeah, I took it as an awesome signal, after which, after that, we type of stayed in contact and it took about six months to have the ability to really buy the home from them. So it was a protracted course of, however I believe since that second I knew that it was meant to be and that we have been on the fitting path.
Emma: Signal from the universe?
Elise: Sure. Okay. So we’re transferring this summer time and we’re simply ready to let our daughter get out of first grade earlier than we transfer, after which we are going to in all probability transfer in June-ish. And we’ve closed on our dwelling in Missouri already. So now we’ve began doing just a few renovations there, and I don’t suppose it wants an overhaul. I discovered an enormous lesson two years in the past after I began an enormous main renovation in October. So for this dwelling, I simply wanna transfer in a clean manner and revel in Halloween and revel in Christmas. After which after that, I may see us beginning an enormous renovation in perhaps January or so. However I don’t need to interrupt Christmas or the vacations like ever once more with renovating it wasn’t value it to satisfy in any respect. So, it’s gonna be a cheerful summer time. I noticed this week that we’ve got been planning this transfer and likewise we promised our daughter for her birthday in June that we might get a pet. So then I noticed that like I believe I volunteered to get a pet the week that we transfer, which perhaps wasn’t a good suggestion, however can also be now It’s kind of set in stone. She’s actually enthusiastic about it.
Emma: Yeah. So she’s acquired names picked out. It’s occurring. Yeah. It won’t be one of the best timing, however who’s ever gonna remorse getting a pet? Come on, what are you able to do?
Elise: It’s true. So yeah, I really feel like we acquired our signal. We acquired the right home for us. So perhaps I ought to describe the home just a bit bit. So we needed to wait two months after we first texted the house owners to enter the home in particular person to look, and I might say, that the toughest a part of the entire course of was simply ready as a result of we had just about agreed with them that we might purchase their dwelling, however we had by no means seen it earlier than. And there have been some photos on-line that we may have a look at, however they have been older and we didn’t know, like how a lot had it been up to date since that point. So after we went in it for the primary time, the primary and solely time, it was October. It was such a surreal expertise. We took our youngsters to my mother’s home for the day as a result of we didn’t need. Like, I don’t know. I believe it’s type of laborious to have a look at a home with youngsters, but in addition I wished them to see it for the primary time when it was both empty or with their stuff within the bedrooms. I believe it’s tougher to think about for little youngsters when there’s like a totally furnished dwelling. So just a few first impressions, the factor that we love concerning the dwelling essentially the most is the curb enchantment. It seems to be type of precisely like the house from the Household stone, the film has a bit tiny little bit of father of the bride. It’s similar to the right prefer it seems to be like a film home from the skin, which is, it’s actually cute, which is like Final Elsie Dream. And, you understand, I like actually, actually wished an outdated dwelling. So this dwelling was constructed within the early 19 lots of and it is rather outdated inside it. The skin of it is rather conventional. I believe that it’s technically a colonial revival, however some individuals have a look at it and suppose farmhouse too, cuz it has huge porches that type of wrap. After which on the within, it has just a few unbelievable authentic options. It has a staircase that’s attractive on the entry. It has a hearth within the kitchen, which is like my factor that I freaked out about after I noticed it and understood as a result of that’s one in every of my goals is having a hearth within the kitchen. It’s similar to the fanciest, Nancy Meyers. Yeah. And apart from that, it has actually a whole lot of potentials to be improved as a result of it’s been renovated rather a lot and it’s fairly plain. The options are fairly plain. There’s virtually no crown molding and issues like that that you’d count on from a house, from its period. So I may see us including much more like historic particulars, however something that we’re retaining, after which we will certainly add extra.
Emma: Have you ever purchased something for the home but? Like what was the very first thing you obtain?
Elise: Ooh. Okay, to this point we had our closing final week and I met with a wooden flooring particular person, so I acquired that booked, which was thrilling and I picked a specialty wooden flooring for the entryway, which is type of just like the diamond sample, you’ve in all probability seen them like a painted on diamond sample, however the one which we’re doing is with two colours of stain. So it’s a bit bit extra refined. I believe it’ll be actually fairly, I hope and the factor I’ve purchased to this point is just lighting fixtures. So I requested my in-laws if I may begin transport lighting fixtures to their dwelling, and I don’t suppose they knew what they have been saying sure to. There are a whole lot of bots within the dwelling which have modernized lighting fixtures, so I’ve been shopping for virtually all vintage lighting fixtures to change. After which just a few conventional ones, so perhaps I can present a pair within the present notes this week. I believe that might be enjoyable. Principally, I’ve been looking for vintage ones from Etsy and that’s been a whole lot of enjoyable. That’s in all probability one in every of my prime favourite issues to buy vintage stuff for certain. I haven’t purchased the rest but.
Emma: Effectively, what do you suppose you’re gonna miss most about your home that you simply’re presently dwelling in? Or perhaps like what you’re gonna miss most about Nashville, Tennessee typically as a result of it’s such an awesome city.
Elise: Yeah. Okay. So what I’m gonna miss about Nashville, clearly, like I’ve some actually particular mates right here that I’m gonna miss. However so far as like companies, I’ve this restaurant known as spares, that’s my final, we go there for birthdays and celebrations and it’s actually particular. We love Dinos, there are a whole lot of cute boutiques right here. Our good friend has a boutique in East Asheville known as Apple and Oak. There are a whole lot of particular locations that we’re gonna miss and undoubtedly Hewitt the backyard heart. It’s one in every of my final favourite locations I like, I at all times joke that I moved to this facet of city to simply be subsequent to that Backyard Middle, which isn’t actually a lie. It’s wonderful. It’s so, so attractive. So I’m gonna miss so many issues, however so far as our dwelling, I believe the hidden library is the factor that’s the toughest to depart. So we knew that we weren’t gonna keep at the start after we first began that renovation. So I’ve recognized the entire time. The opposite factor I’m gonna actually miss about this house is the library eating room. I used to be so pleased with that, I had a lot enjoyable placing it collectively, and virtually all of the books are spooky. It was enjoyable, that was a dream challenge. And total, I like this dwelling. If we have been staying in Tennessee, I might keep right here eternally. It’s a very good dwelling and it actually works. I’m gonna miss so many issues about it. And somebody requested me like if you happen to may transport your own home, would you, and like in comparison with the house that we’re transferring to, I believe I nonetheless simply wished an outdated dwelling so unhealthy that I perhaps would change, however that’s actually the one factor. The one purpose so many individuals don’t even like outdated properties, you understand? The place we dwell in Tennessee it’s not an outdated dwelling space, it’s a brand new dwelling space. It’s like all the things’s new and it seems to be very nice. And so I believe that whoever strikes right here will adore it for what it’s. And so they’re in all probability not an individual who desires like 120-year-old dwelling.
Emma: However hopefully they need a really embellished dwelling cuz yours achieved. Which is good, I believe. However thanks.
Elise: It’s been enjoyable displaying it. We’ve been engaged on promoting it for some time and the suggestions is normally very nice, however for lots of people, I do suppose it’s a whole lot of wallpaper and stuff. So I believe that the house will have to be both renovated or going to somebody who likes wallpaper however I don’t have any regrets in any respect about that. Though I do know not everybody likes wallpaper. I simply suppose it seems to be so good on this dwelling. So I might quite it go to somebody who simply sees that and likes it. However you understand, in the end I don’t get to choose and it type of doesn’t matter. It’s not gonna be my dwelling anymore.
Emma: Yeah. Effectively, it’s not the costliest factor to take away the wallpaper if you happen to don’t like wallpaper. Yeah, I imply, there are far more costly adjustments you can have made these individuals would’ve been like, oh, properly, you understand, that’s like true ripping out tile or backsplashes or counter tops, these are far more costly than wallpaper.
Elise: However yeah, we’re undoubtedly gonna miss it. And it’s like undoubtedly unhappy. And I may see us coming to Nashville rather a lot sooner or later, and we at all times got here right here rather a lot earlier than we lived right here. It’s an awesome place. I don’t really feel able to say goodbye to it in any respect, so I’m simply not going to.
Emma: Yeah, Nashville is superior. I’m certain we’ll go to a lot. It’ll be enjoyable. And in some methods too, cuz you’ll have like type of recent eyes.
Elise: That’s true. There are much more resorts in Nashville now. After we first moved right here, there have been one or two cool resorts. Now there are like 10. So I believe that’s cool too. We are able to come keep in one of many fancy new resorts and get room service and that’ll be actually completely different.
Emma: Yeah, and you’ve got fairly just a few like actually good mates there, so it’s not such as you’ll by no means go to cuz you’ll wanna see your folks. So yeah, like Ting and Jason. So anyway, I’ll say a few issues I’m enthusiastic about.
Elise: Oh yeah. I wanna hear. Everybody desires to listen to your perspective. That’s just like the primary factor individuals ask me is how does Emma really feel? What does Emma suppose? So say it.
Emma: Oh, that’s candy. I believed it was cool that you simply wished to dwell in New York. Like I mentioned, I believe it was neat how a lot you had modified your thoughts on it from different occasions we’d visited New York and I might’ve beloved visiting you there. However I bear in mind once you advised me, I bear in mind pondering. Oh, I’m simply not gonna see her as a lot. Not as a result of I don’t wanna go to New York or as a result of it’s an excessive amount of cash or one thing, however ever since I had Oscar, I simply have visited Nashville rather a lot much less. It’s simply laborious to be away from him. And naturally, we’ve introduced Oscar to Nashville just a few occasions, and we’ll keep for longer when we’ve got him there with us. However that’s additionally type of difficult differently too, you understand? So I used to be similar to, oh, I’m simply not gonna see her as a lot. So I believe that the factor that I’m most enthusiastic about with you transferring house is I’ll get to see you extra, which is nice for work after all as a result of we are able to batch work collectively fairly quickly we’re eager to do the factor with our podcast the place we report collectively and we are able to movie it so we are able to put it on like YouTube or various things like that, which I believe might be actually enjoyable. However greater than something, I’ve simply felt like since I turned a mother, I’ve rather a lot much less time to be an aunt and it makes me actually unhappy as a result of I like being an aunt. It’s one of the best, and I simply don’t go away dwelling as a lot or as actually because after I do, I don’t see my son, and that’s at all times laborious. And so figuring out that you simply guys might be on the town, it’s like, oh, properly I can simply deliver him over Saturday mornings and I can decide up some McDonald’s hash browns on the way in which, and I’ll be goldie’s hero. It’s simply simpler. It is going to be a lot simpler to get in some ant time, after which additionally simpler for work stuff too. In order that’s actually thrilling. And I really feel like we talked about this in some unspecified time in the future, however, so after faculty, I moved to Los Angeles for just a few years, solely like three years. So not so long as you’ve lived in Nashville in any respect and it’s a totally completely different season of my life. I wasn’t married, and I didn’t have youngsters. Entire completely different age, blah, blah, blah. However I bear in mind after I moved dwelling feeling type of melancholy about it at first. Not as a result of I didn’t like Springfield, cuz I used to be excited to maneuver dwelling and work with you. We have been actually beginning a lovely mess again then, which it’s really known as Crimson Velvet, we had an area retailer. We do various issues with it. However anyway, so I used to be enthusiastic about that. I used to be excited to see my household extra. However I believe one thing about dwelling within the city you grew up in, one thing about it feels a bit bit like, oh, I didn’t make it farther than this. Are you aware what I imply? Just like the literal distance, which now that I’m, perhaps you don’t really feel this manner cuz you’re older and extra mature than I used to be at that age. I believe I used to be like 25 or six when this was occur. However now I don’t actually even really feel prefer it issues the place I dwell. I believe when it comes to much more of like what I would like from life so far as like a profession and a household. And to me, dwelling someplace that’s a bit bit simpler to see household and simply being sincere right here, a bit bit cheaper than another areas of the nation. It makes it simpler to journey and see issues that I perhaps wouldn’t see as a result of if I used to be dwelling in a dearer place, which for me Los Angeles was much more costly than dwelling in Springfield, Missouri, I simply didn’t have as a lot cash to do issues that I wished to do. And I believe that’s modified with each time and age, but in addition similar to the realm. So, anyway. I don’t actually know the place I’m going with this, I’m simply kind of saying some perhaps encouraging issues, perhaps not, I don’t know, however similar to, I don’t know. I believe typically it feels a bit melancholy to maneuver again to the place you’re from, however it’s really been top-of-the-line issues I ever did and I hope it feels that manner for you. I believe it would.
Elise: Thanks for sharing that. That’s actually candy. Yeah, I virtually didn’t put the New York half into the story. I don’t really feel able to leaving it out. That’s why I put it in, however I virtually didn’t put it in as a result of I don’t need to get one million feedback which can be like, it is best to have moved to New York. I do know that it’s a greater metropolis with extra alternatives for my kids, like a extra thrilling place. Like I do know that clearly. I didn’t need them to be in contrast as a result of you’ll be able to’t evaluate them and they need to by no means be in contrast. A small city in Missouri ought to by no means be in comparison with New York Metropolis. However for me I don’t really feel unhappy, I don’t suppose in the identical manner, however the purpose why one in every of our huge causes was that after you have youngsters and we’ve got a dedication to seeing our household being there for the vacations, being there, there are a number of occasions all year long after we’re at all times in Missouri. So we just about felt like we lived in Nashville, however we spent all of our trip time going to Missouri and we actually did, partly it was due to Covid, however partly it’s simply because we don’t have sufficient capability. We have now hardly traveled wherever with our youngsters in addition to going to Missouri time and again for the previous 4 years. That is among the causes, I don’t know if it’s a purpose why we’re transferring, however it’s an enormous benefit of it or an enormous professional from the professionals and cons checklist. Is that we gained’t must journey anymore for Christmas and for each single summer time. We normally go about 4 or 5 occasions a yr and as a substitute of getting to satisfy these obligations, we might have the ability to go to different locations, which is what we actually need to do. After which for these holidays and stuff, we might simply already be there as a result of we dwell there. I believe that was a reasonably compelling purpose for us as a result of we do wanna journey with our youngsters and we need to go to a a lot greater number of locations. And after we thought of dwelling in New York, which is a spot with an enormous quantity of tradition and alternatives for our youngsters. However we wouldn’t actually have the ability to go wherever aside from staying there and going again to Missouri on a regular basis to satisfy our obligation. So anyway, that’s for certain an enormous purpose. And anybody who lives away out of your hometown, away from your loved ones, who has youngsters I do know, understands, it’s an advanced give and take and that we’re all simply making an attempt to make these two issues join.
Emma: Yeah. And there’s like no good place to dwell typically. And likewise like anybody who would go away you a remark like, it is best to dwell right here quite than right here in your youngsters. That’s simply foolish. They don’t know your youngsters, they’re not their dad and mom. That’s simply ridiculous. So I don’t suppose you really want to fret about that. I believe you’re giving your youngsters an awesome childhood and plenty of alternatives to see their household, to see various things on the earth to develop their pursuits. I’m not nervous about them, so that you don’t have to be both.
Elise: Thanks. We’re doing our greatest and it’s undoubtedly the happiest time of my life I’m enthusiastic about this subsequent season. I believe that we’ll have the ability to obtain a whole lot of our objectives and have the ability to give a bit bit extra to our youngsters when it comes to household time, touring, yeah, a number of various things. So we had a factor down right here that was like, how is that this gonna have an effect on a lovely mess or a podcast? So yeah, I believe that it’s gonna have an effect on a lovely mess in a reasonably considerably optimistic manner. Emma wouldn’t say this, however I can admit it, that she was like, carrying all the things for a very long time, particularly since I had youngsters. However truthfully earlier than that too, she at all times visited me much more than I visited her and he or she would come for devoted work time. After I would come to Missouri, I wouldn’t have time to work cuz we might be doing all of our household obligations. I believe that Emma was making it work for us to work lengthy distance, after which when she turned a mother, it began to turn out to be clear that I couldn’t simply ask her to return anytime I wished anymore and that wasn’t going to maintain working. So we simply weren’t gonna see one another as a lot, which additionally is okay. I believe that we may have stored working lengthy distance. I don’t suppose it was dysfunctional like we acquired good at it, however I believe that so far as eager to be a quote unquote model collectively, simply taking pictures and movies collectively is a lot tougher once you’re combining it into like 5 occasions a yr that you simply see one another. Are you aware what I imply? Then when you are able to do it on an everyday Tuesday. So I do suppose that it’ll in all probability have an effect on our weblog enterprise and the podcast in a very optimistic manner, simply because the comfort stage is gonna go up a hundredfold. Yeah. And we’re gonna begin doing the video podcast, which I’m enthusiastic about. We’re gonna begin recording collectively in particular person. We have now achieved it earlier than just a few occasions. It’s kinda like good like I believe the vitality is a bit bit completely different and I don’t know, I’m used to this, so I don’t really feel like there’s like an issue with it. I believe we’ll simply be like in a extra comfy routine and I believe it’ll come off that method to our viewers.
Emma: Yeah. I don’t know if it’s gonna really feel that completely different for our viewers. I believe it would, however I believe greater than you suppose they’ll discover something. I believe greater than something it’ll really feel higher to us. It’ll simply be simpler in some methods, and perhaps they gained’t even see it, which is completely positive. You don’t must see how simple or laborious work is. However hopefully, it at all times appears simple from the skin. However I believe it will likely be, I believe it’ll really feel simpler for us. In order that’ll be good. It’ll be nice. It’ll be superior.
Elise: I believe so too. I’m excited. I really feel like, I’m additionally nonetheless shocked, like I’m nonetheless so stunned that it’s even occurring, however I believe it’s gonna be wonderful and, I can’t wait to point out the home, so I’ll put a bit one thing on my Instagram right now, so you’ll be able to see just a bit peek and yeah, over the following few months we’ll share much more. I’m not like Emma, I don’t really feel as non-public about my home. I like sharing it for enjoyable. I’m so excited. Effectively, let’s go on then to our new phase. A joke or a reality with Nova. All proper. We’re prepared for a joke or a reality with Nova. Right here’s Nova.
Nova: So I’m going to just do jokes right now. Okay. After which subsequent week I’m gonna begin my reality and jokes. Okay. So why did a cookie go to the physician? As a result of he was feeling a bit bit crummy. Oh, that’s a very good one. And the way do you propose a celebration in house, you planet.
Elsie: All proper. Thanks a lot for listening. I’m so excited to share this journey with you. Subsequent week we’ll be again for half two, sharing extra particulars about long-distance renovating, getting our Tennessee dwelling able to checklist, and what’s occurring with the Pink Home. We’ll even be sharing our guide report for this time tomorrow. So if you happen to’re studying in real-time, right here is your warning.
Emma: End your guide. Folks have been speaking about it.